I’m smitten with someone who lives in another state. There, I’ve said it. I did not want to be. I tried so hard not to be. Alas, we are here and I am.

I’ve been in long distance relationships before and I’m not totally sold on it being a viable option for starting a relationship. However, if you can here are my suggestions to making it work.

1. Communicate effectively!

The amount that you communicate is not as important as the quality of what you’re communicating. Texting or g-chatting all day is an easy way to feel close to someone, but that may begin to feel mundane and stale. I think that video chatting or talking on the phone every night is a better way to connect with your significant other. Pick three things you want to talk about and then let the conversation flow naturally from there!

2. Be trusting!

You should want your significant other to go out and have fun, even if it’s without you. Sometimes it’s hard to see the big picture when the small picture is feeling a little lonely. The person that you’re with is with you for a reason, trust they’d never do anything to mess that up.

3. Actually go the distance!

Sometimes it’s hard to find the time, resources and financing to actually make a trip to see the person that you’re in a LDR (long distance relationship) with, but committing to being with someone means that you must have those trips to keep you going. I would suggest flying, driving, train-ing, or bus-ing, but you could run to them like this ADORABLE Nike commercial!

4. Manage expectations!

If you’re never going to move, then you should definitely let your significant other know that it’s up to them to do so and vice versa. Also, knowing the next time you’re going to see each other is so important. Those dates are definitely the dates that keep you going until the next time you see each other!


Do you have any suggestions in making long distance love work?




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